(the cock's or rooster's mouth will kill him) (The words we say can come back to haunt us)
Get your mind out of the gutter. I not talking about that part of the human anatomy at all. Is a Jamaican saying that me sure yuh hear yuh mother using. And it simply mean seh yuh can make big pronouncements that come back round to haunt you. So watch yuh mouth.
In other words, for those of us who have a difficult time with our own Jamaican language- Be careful what you are saying because you might be signing your own death warrant with your own words. Words have power! The Bible somewhere (forgive me I’m not a bible scholar) says that “the power of life and death is in the tongue.” Now, the death that I’m speaking of is not necessarily the literal physical death. Sometimes it’s the death of your dreams or your friendship or even your love life.
Kibba yuh mouth. Yuh chat too much!
Yes, sometimes we really do talk too much and that can have horrible effects on different aspects of our lives. This one is for those who feel that you need to tell everyone who you are sharing your bed with and who you are sharing your life with. Notice I said everyone. I know that in this period of enlightenment, most people believe that in order to really say you are being true to yourself you have to let everyone know your sexual and lifestyle preferences. If that’s how you feel, then by all means go for it, but please be aware that you may be setting yourself up for unnecessary pain later on. And I say it’s unnecessary because people who are more discerning will be better able to be clear as to who they should share their business with.
The man on the streets has no rights to know your bedroom business. Your coworkers and acquaintances and your gym buddies don’t need to know your lifestyle choices. Stop going begging for approval from those who don’t deserve to be given so much power over your life and your choices. And if you’re not sure how to decide whether or not this person deserves to know your business, here is a simple way to help you decide. Ask yourself this question: “When was the last time this person came up to me and volunteered information about THEIR bed business?” If the answer to that is never, then you have your answer. And if you have strangers who are volunteering information about their sexual lives, then please feel empowered to call either the asylum at Bellevue or police hotline.
So then, let’s talk about friends and siblings and parents. If you are feeling compelled to tell your parents that you naturally prefer the same sex, then first of all ask yourself these questions:
Why do I want them to know? (Is it just to make me feel less guilty or do I think they are smart and mature enough to deal with this information)
How will they deal with the situation? (Will they throw stones, or throw a party or throw you out? - )
Are you emotionally, financially and mentally prepared to deal with their reaction (especially if they throw you out).
(Most Important) – Is it really any of their business?
When you get through those questions with favourable results, then by all means chat yuh business.
Until then,
kibba yuh mouth. (close your mouth)
Nicholas Steven Bruce
nicholasstephenbruce@gmail.com
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